332 ~ When Eye Rolls Become Self Growth Tests

Hello Magical Human & welcome back to Madison Mindset the Podcast 🧚🏼

Join me for this episode where I share a transformative experience where a former friend's judgment no longer affected me negatively, showcasing the power of mindset work and self-acceptance. This moment demonstrated how years of personal development transformed my reaction from potential self-doubt to compassion and understanding.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to a Different Episode
• 1:50 A Powerful Test of Self-Growth
• 5:53 Happy People Don't Judge Others
• 13:07 Embracing Your Organic Self
• 16:14 Mind Magic Program Introduction
• 20:02 Closing Thoughts and Connection

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:05

Hello, magical human and welcome back to Madison Mindset, the podcast. This episode is different. I am sitting in my pajamas and my dressing gown on the couch, you know, halfway through making dinner. This is a very wholesome podcast episode. This is very chill. No, there is no video because I don't feel like it. I started podcasting for the audio love.

Speaker 1: 0:32

Of course, video will come back and it'll be quite random. I'll do video as often as I can, but sometimes inspiration is better than you know doing things perfectly. You know, I really do feel that when you create with authenticity and you go with your inspiration, you go with your gut. You know, sometimes you may not be able to record in a perfect recording studio. You know you can't time creativity. A lot of the time it comes to you and inspiration comes to you at these random moments and I like to be able to show up for that and acknowledge when I feel creative. And I can tell you right now this might be a cool video me sitting in on the couch chilling out. But you know the room's dark, it's very relaxed, it's beautiful. So, yeah, it's just not the vibe. It's just not the vibe of the video and also, you know, I don't think anyone needs to see me in my pajamas on on the internet. I don't. I don't think the internet needs that, you know, I think we can live without it. So, yeah, happy Monday. I hope you were well.

Speaker 1: 1:42

I wanted to begin this episode by sharing an experience I had with you only today, only happened today. So it was just one of those moments where you realize that all the work you've done on yourself has paid off. You know, it was one of those really cool moments. So, basically, what happened was I was I parked my car, I was on the way to work and basically what happened was I was I parked my car, I was on the way to work and I was walking across the road to work and I stopped at the island in between the lanes. It was at a roundabout. So I don't know if people have roundabouts everywhere. I'm not sure about that. I don't know if that's an Australian thing Surely not. I don't know. I need to travel, as you can tell, travelling upcoming. We'll go somewhere one day.

Speaker 1: 2:25

So, yeah, I stop in the island waiting for the cars to pass and this little white car drives up and stops and I look in the window and it's one of the girls I used to dance with years ago. Years ago we used to dance together when we were kids and, yeah, we danced together up until like mid-teenages basically, and we got along well. I really enjoyed her company and I haven't seen her in a long time and I was ready to wave and she literally looked me up and down and did a bit of a eye roll and a sideways glance and you know that kind of girl look gossipy, trying not to swear on the podcast, look yeah, and then she just drove off and I was like that was so random and what was interesting about that moment was old me, okay. So version of me who has not run into mindset work, has not found yoga, philosophy or practice anything, has not read millions of books, feels like millions, you know, done all this study on the mind and work with the mind, practices with the mind. The me who hasn't done that, me in another dimension. You know me only six years ago.

Speaker 1: 3:48

That would have ruined my day because it's judgment, right, it's judgment coming right at you and I would have gone through my head like what is it? Do I have something on my face? Does my hair look weird? Am I wearing a weird outfit. You know, and most of the time, if you've ever seen me in person or if you've ever seen any of my pictures, I'm basically wearing like the same thing I always wear. I don't mix it up at all.

Speaker 1: 4:11

I'm so happy, you know, today I was actually wearing these pants from Cotton On from the men's section, because I refuse to wear those silly pants that they make for women now, with the gather up the bottom so you can walk around with your butt on show. It's just not, just not my thing, you know. I like to. You know the body's sacred, keep it. I like to keep it quiet, you know. So, yeah, I literally was wearing man pants. That being said, they look pretty cute, so it's not a huge deal. But yeah, I was wearing like baggy man pants with this baggy sweater and I've got my tote bag, because handbags are just not my thing either Very relaxed, very natural, we'll say that very natural. And so I was. Just, I could feel this old part of me going what's wrong with me, you know? Why doesn't she like me? I want to be friends, you know, I want to be accepted, blah, blah, blah. You know, as things happen. But I smiled. The reality of the situation was. I smiled, which is incredible, because that's not easy to do.

Speaker 1: 5:19

You know to recognize that if she's judging me so harshly, you know if she's so unhappy with herself that she's. You know she's like makeup queen. You know I'm talking like it's. You know she's made herself look a certain way. And if you know me well, if you've been listening to the podcast for a long time, you know that I'm not into makeup. I'm into embracing exactly who you are and what you look like and loving that for exactly who you are, I think it's beautiful. That's my way. It doesn't have to be your way. I'm not judging anyone who does, but I do know that makeup can be associated with self-doubt. I need to be better, I need to be prettier. And she had like huge fake eyelashes.

Speaker 1: 6:01

Like if you're going to actively throw judgment at someone else to the point where you stop your car, look someone up and down, roll your eyes so obviously and then drive off in a huff, if you're going to throw that kind of judgment, my mindset brain is going to start to analyze why. Because I know for a fact at this point in my life that happy people, genuinely happy, peaceful content, people do not judge others. They don't roll their eyeballs at you, they don't look you up and down, they don't care what you're doing because they're content with their lives. They don't feel the need to gossip. They don't feel the need to put anyone down. It's bullying is what it is essentially. That is bullying. Why are we doing it at all in this world? But especially when you're over the age of 18, it's time to stop that, right, definitely time to stop that. So if you're going to throw that at me, I'm going to go.

Speaker 1: 6:58

Hmm, I wonder why? Because I'm just being me, I'm doing my thing and I'll admit I'm a bit weird. We're all a bit weird, right? Maybe I was walking funny, I don't know. Maybe I was like walking like a hunchback or something. I don't know if anyone else catches themselves, side glance in the mirror sometimes and you realize you're hunching, like the hunchback in Notre Dame. It's like I don't know. I don't know what I was doing. Maybe I had food on my face, who knows, I don't know what happened. I did have a turmeric smoothie, so there's a pretty good chance. I had yellow lips, but you know, I don't know and it's one of those things where you know you can let that kind of thing ruin your day, you can let that kind of thing pull you down, but that's what someone who judges you like that. They want you to be dragged down, they want you to feel unworthy. They want to create a sense of doubt within you because they feel that doubt within themselves. So they're projecting that right.

Speaker 1: 7:56

I've met amazingly happy people, people who are embracing the yoga lifestyle, the philosophy, buddhism, you know, meditating regularly and doing this work. You know the few people that I would say are my close, close friends and family. You know those people. They show up. You know they show up for themselves. They're willing to listen, they're willing to let me be me. I'm willing to let them be them and that's just it. It's beautiful.

Speaker 1: 8:26

You know, I never have this drama and it was interesting to see a girl that I was trying to impress when I was a teenager. You know, when I was 14, 15, I was trying to impress her. I remember sitting down for conversations together and talking about boys and talking about this and that and, you know, trying to come off a certain way, trying to come off cool. You know, I remember doing that and I can honestly look back and smile at my younger self, because I know what she was trying to do. She was trying to feel acceptance from the outside. Because I wasn't offering myself acceptance, I wasn't telling myself that I was good enough as I were like exactly as I was. I wasn't loving myself, I wasn't caring for myself. I was looking at the outside world and trying to fit to the mold that I saw that was created. That is the mold for cool. So I'm going to try and squeeze myself into that mold. You know, that girl over there is really popular or really talented, or really this or really that, so I want to be her best friend. What do I have to do, you know? And literally morphing myself into different molds. And years later you know, over 10 years later of younger me trying to be accepted, I can literally feel this sense of peace and it was a great test. You know this is a test. You know that kind of thing.

Speaker 1: 9:52

Ask yourself if that kind of thing happened to you, what would your reaction be? Be honest with yourself, what would your reaction be if you saw someone from high school or from whenever it was a cool girl, from school or whatever and she rolls her eyes at you and keeps driving. What would be your reaction? How would it make you feel? That's a really good sign of the state, your state of mind, you know. How would that make you feel? I want to know. Leave it in the comments. I want to know how would that make you feel, because old me would have fallen into self-doubt. It would, would have ruined my day. I might have even thought about messaging her and trying to sound cool, like, oh, I saw you today. Like, oh, you look really good, whatever. Like I would have tried to come back from it, I would have forced something. I would have, I would have done something. I know I would have.

Speaker 1: 10:41

You know, and it's it's very interesting to know that within myself and see how I've changed, because my current reaction, my reaction that I had today, was a smile, a little self hug, like a just warm heart, like soothing the younger version of myself that could fall so easily into self-doubt. You know self-esteem issues, negativity, feeling judged, feeling not good enough, all those things. I gave her a little hug inside, I smiled and I just thought to myself I hope she's happy, I hope she finds more joy, I hope she finds more self-acceptance, I hope she learns to love her life. Because I know for a fact, after all my years of training, after all my years of working with clients, working with people in yoga, meeting different people in this space, in the spiritual space, in the self-growth space, working with the mind, I know for a fact that happy people do not judge others. Happy people do not bully other people. Happy people don't do that because they're content. Unhappy people, unfulfilled people and people who are highly anxious and have filled with self-doubt those people will judge you, those people will bully you. Those people will try and pull you down because they're trying to suck you down to their level. You know they're thinking well, if I'm not happy, no one else gets to be happy. It's that kind of mentality. But they don't know that that's what's actually going on inside and it takes a lot of self-awareness and self-reflection to realize that that's what you're doing. So instead, I felt compassion for her. I hope she feels better, I hope she finds herself. I even hope she was coming into yoga. I was going across the road to teach yoga. I hope that she comes to yoga and learns to meditate, because that'll definitely make her feel better.

Speaker 1: 12:42

So it was an amazing moment today. It really was, and this moment today has become the entire episode, which I kind of knew that it would anyway, so not surprised at all. But I wanted to take that story and share it with you and get you to reflect on how you would react in that situation. And I'm back. I have to say I am so down for cooking podcast episodes. This is great. It feels like I have you in my kitchen and we're just having a conversation, which is so nice, so good. I love it. I love connecting and being honest with people and showing exactly who I am, except by video, because no one needs to see me in pajamas at 6.25 PM on a Friday. No one needs to see that. So, yeah, this. I just feel so stoked, I'm so excited by my reaction.

Speaker 1: 13:44

You know I really am, because it wasn't that long ago when I felt completely insecure, anxious and frustrated and trying to keep up with trends and even spending goodness knows how much money on trying to keep up with. You know it's like keeping up with the Kardashians, right? It's like why are you bothering? What's the point? It literally means nothing. It's just consumerism. There's so much in this world, our current world, that makes you feel like you're not enough, because it's profitable. You know, and it's taken a lot for me to unravel those beliefs and that need in myself and to step into self-acceptance, self-love, enoughness. It's taken so much and it just felt so good to know that that was my reaction and that the work is paying off, which I already knew it was, but that was such a great thing to happen. I'm always like thank you, life, thank you for making that happen to me today. That was the perfect test for me and I'm so stoked with my result.

Speaker 1: 14:46

I'm really excited in the way I reacted and this is exactly why I do what I do because you don't have to live in a world where you're trying to keep up with everyone. You don't have to be like everyone else. You don't have to be like everyone else. You don't have to wear certain clothes, you don't have to look a certain way. You don't need an expensive handbag, you don't need anything. You literally need nothing. In fact, people with less are my favorite, the people who show more of themselves, who are the most.

Speaker 1: 15:18

Let's bring in a whole new word to the meaning organic. You know, we want organic fruits and vegetables. We want organic, this, organic that, organic sheets, organic, everything right. How about organic humans? I want honesty. I want to see you as you are. You know, I want to see your face. I want to see the way you stand, the way you hold yourself. I want to hear your real voice, your real tone of voice. I want to see your face. I want to see the way you stand, the way you hold yourself. I want to hear your real voice, your real tone of voice. I want to hear your real ideas, your real thoughts. I want to see what comes out of that creativity, that incredible vessel that you are to hold space.

Speaker 1: 15:53

You know, if you're so busy trying to fit a certain mold and changing yourself, then how do you know anything you're doing, thinking or feeling in your life is authentic? How do you know that it's right for you? Because you're trying to squish yourself into different molds? I want organic humans. I just want you as you are. I want me as I am. It's so much more fun that way. And then you always end up with the right people in your life, people who love the kind of human you are.

Speaker 1: 16:19

Organic you. You don't have to try, you don't have to look a certain way, you don't have to be anything at all, just you as you are in any mood acceptance, contentment with that. This is why I'm teaching what I'm teaching. This is why I work with clients one-on-one. By the way, you can still go down and book a clarity call with me if you want one-on-one coaching. If you're like you know what I really need to develop a stronger mindset, a better perspective on myself. I need to start working on that and it's not working just working on it myself. We all need guidance. We all need a hand to hold, especially in the beginning or just somewhere along the journey. That's a particularly difficult part. I'm here for you. If you resonate with me, go and book a clarity call, let's chat, let's see if it's right for you. It's still open. Go and check it out. And also, mind Magic is ready to be booked right now.

Speaker 1: 17:13

Mind Magic is a group program, a four-week group transformation program where I am literally teaching you everything that has changed my life the change in perspective, the way you can see life, the connection you can have with life, the work you can do within yourself, developing your own best friend relationship with yourself, becoming aligned with life, the reality of life and finding peace and joy. This is the reality of life and finding peace and joy. This is I saw it today. I saw it. That's magic. It feels magical and it's uplifting. You know, again like six, seven years ago. That would have hit me so hard and I would be down in the dumps right now, being miserable, probably doing something self-destructive like scrolling on Instagram or putting on some silly TV show that wastes time. You know I would have done that. But I feel strong. My mind feels completely aligned with life. It feels more connected to reality, more connected to truth, and it changes everything it really does. So if you want to experience some of this work, if you want to learn the tools and the techniques yourself, if you want to learn the shifts that I've made over the years and you want to transform in four weeks, this is your opportunity. Go down below. There's a link down there that'll take you straight to the booking page for Mind Magic.

Speaker 1: 18:40

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Speaker 1: 19:07

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Speaker 1: 19:30

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Speaker 1: 19:47

But yeah, how cool is life. I'm so excited, so excited. I'm sitting here on a Friday night talking to my phone in my pajamas and you're still here listening. Isn't that incredible? I should definitely go and check dinner again. So I'm going to wrap this up. Thank you for being here, magical Human. I appreciate you so deeply. I'm so excited to connect deeper with you to continue forward in this podcast. I've never felt more grounded and I'm just so proud of my 23, 24 year old self for starting this podcast because she knew she knew that this work should be shared, and in my authentic way, because we all resonate with different people. We all connect with different people. So if you're enjoying this message, if you're feeling good, if you want to learn more, keep listening.

Speaker 1: 20:42

There are an abundance of episodes. We're nearly at 350 episodes. It's insane. Go and check it all out. Send me a DM, leave a comment below, send me an email. I'm very active and I respond personally to everything. So come and chat to me, let's connect and let's work on making a life. That's pure magic, because life is short. There is absolutely no time to waste on self-doubt and judging others. There's no point. On that note, I'm going to wrap this up. Thank you so much for being here. Please send it to a friend you think who needs it. If anyone is experiencing a bit of self-judgment, self-doubt, all that kind of thing, send it to them. Hopefully it helps. Please leave a rating or a review for the podcast. That really helps me reach new people. Thank you so much for being here. I wish you a wonderful week, love. I'm sorry.