271 ~ Finding Harmony in Chaos and Change

Hello Magical Human & welcome back to Madison Mindset the Podcast 🧚🏼

Episode overview:

• addressing a listener's question about feeling unheard at work  
• finding joy in life's inconveniences 
• the power of hindsight and co-creating with life 
• embrace flexibility in planning daily activities 
• challenges are opportunities for growth 
• a light-hearted approach to life's messiness 

This episode explores how to navigate life's unexpected challenges and inconveniences with resilience, understanding and joy. Learn to embrace these moments as opportunities for growth and to trust that life will always lead you where you need to be.

You can do this

Love,

Madison M xx

Chapters

• 0:00 Navigating Workplace Communication Challenges
• 13:49 Life's Unpredictable Lessons
• 20:32 Embracing Life's Unexpected Challenges
• 28:20 Sharing Love and Gratitude

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Hello you, magical human. Welcome back to Madison Mindset, the podcast. In today's episode we are going to dive into a little bit about what to do when life is not making it easy, when things keep happening and you're like why is this happening? This makes everything so much harder. Things happen. We know that, so it's time to really address what to do in those situations and to find a way to work through them. Before we jump into the episode, I wanted to read another DM that I got on Instagram from a lovely, lovely listener of the podcast and chat a bit about that.

Speaker 1: 0:57

Hello, magical Human, and welcome to Madison Mindset Podcast. My name is Madison Mindset podcast. My name is Madison. I'm a yoga teacher, a mindset and spirituality coach and a complete earth fairy. I see a world that is peaceful and easy to live in, humans that are awakened and enlightened towards who they are and what life truly is and why we are here. I understand life can be really hard. I've had a huge journey with anxiety myself. I understand what it's like to feel overwhelmed, overworked, stressed and frustrated within this earth. It is this journey that led me to begin my own growth journey and is only through those struggles that I was able to birth this podcast so that you can have the tools and techniques and knowledge to help you step forward and be a being of light, a magical earthly being who is grounded, supported, who takes on challenges with love and embraces the lessons that each day brings you. Are that being. I am here to walk you there.

Speaker 1: 2:26

You will find many different kinds of episodes through this podcast. All are created in the moment and with love for you. Find the one you need for this moment and enjoy. Take a moment for yourself, sit down with your journal and tune in. Welcome, let's begin, thank you.

Speaker 1: 3:34

So she said hi, madison, I just found your podcast and listened to the episode on speaking up. Is there also one on how to tend to ourselves when we can't speak up at work? How can we tend to a blocked throat chakra when you can't share your thinking or your opinion isn't valued? Super interesting question here, okay, so what to do when your opinion isn't valued? Okay, here's the thing you know if you're at work and it's some kind of situation where you know maybe you're on the lower quote I hate this because it's you know, I don't.

Speaker 1: 4:11

I don't love the idea of valuing some human beings higher than others. You know, I think we all have an important place, and when you, you know, are in a situation where everyone, there's this hierarchy, it's really it's it's not nice. It's always good to have a leader, you know, people have always had leaders and ancestors and et cetera, but everyone is still valued equally, of equal importance. You know, you might have, you know, the hunters, the gatherers, the elders, the leaders of the tribe, you know you have kind of everyone who supports. So, even in a work environment, it's like, well, it would be nice if everyone was valued, because everyone's there to do something and you need something to be done and there's people there to do it. So I think everyone should be valued equally, although it's not always like that in our modern world that probably needs dramatic improvement.

Speaker 1: 5:04

So if you feel like you're in a place where you're looking to heal throat chakra but you're in a work environment that doesn't value your opinion, or you feel like you can't express your opinion, I would say, as always, we need to go inward first, okay, so don't try not to think things such as my opinion isn't valued. You know, because that, as an affirmation, is very impactful. You know, my opinion isn't valued. You know, if you voice that enough in your head, even as a thought, it's going to start to seep into other areas of your life and suddenly no one cares about your opinion. You know, and it would be coming from you. So it's really important to understand that your opinion does hold value, you know, especially if you have I don't know what it is maybe you have an idea at work or something that you don't like the way it's functioning. You want to share that. I think it's worth doing it. You know, I really do. I think it's worth doing it anyway, even if you think no one's going to listen to you, who cares?

Speaker 1: 6:05

Just voice the opinion, voice your concern, voice your thoughts. You don't know, you don't know. You know you never know what people might think and you know in most of these places people have to listen to you. You know if you have a concern or you don't like something or you've got to share what you feel and talk about what you feel like you need or what you feel like might be a good idea, you know. So I think it wouldn't be a bad idea to actually voice the opinion, even just to practice believing in yourself and understanding that your opinion is valued because your opinion does hold value. You know you're allowed to express your thoughts and your opinion. And valued because your opinion does hold value. You know you're allowed to express your thoughts and your opinion and make sure we're doing it in a selfless way. You know you may voice an opinion and no one may agree with you, and that's completely fine.

Speaker 1: 6:58

Understand their point of view and see if you can settle on something. You know a lot of the times like our point of view is just from our perspective and there are so many different perspectives to take in this world. You know like there are so many angles, there are so many lights, so many shades. You know it's hard to get everyone looking at something in the same way. So voicing your opinion and hearing the opinions of others is actually a really healthy thing to do, as long as you're not pushing that your angle's the best. You may not know that. Okay, just voice what you need, what you think, hear others and see if you can come to some kind of middle ground or some place that feels settled. You know it feels right for you. So yeah, one, your opinion is valued. It is otherwise. That affirmation will seep into your life.

Speaker 1: 7:50

Voice the opinion at work. Why not Give it a go and also ask yourself if you're happy in that kind of work environment as well? For me, it's definitely not my place to be in that kind of situation. If you enjoy it, that's fantastic, you know, do what you need to do. But if it's in that kind of situation, if you enjoy it, that's fantastic, you know, do what you need to do. But if it's putting these kind of affirmations in your head or fears in your head, you know it might just be something to be aware of and go. Am I actually happy here? Just to make sure that you're spending your life doing what you want to do as best you can. You know, I understand we've got to pay the bills. I get that, but it's still important to think about, you know, okay, what do I need in my life? What do I want in my life? And to make sure that you're showing up for that really important, what else, anything we can do to tend to ourselves? Well, okay, let's say you're in a position where maybe you have shared your opinion or you absolutely cannot share your opinion for a serious reason.

Speaker 1: 8:45

You know, then, things you can do speak your opinion to the mirror or even just speak it out loud in general, like I am constantly talking out loud to myself, and it really helps. You know, it's giving me time to voice what I'm thinking, even if it's just to the air, you know, that's fine. That's why, you know, talking to trees I love talking to trees. You know, even I talk to my van all the time, like she has a consciousness. You know, really, um, practicing expressing what I feel and what I want, because you have to practice doing that. You know you could try writing it down. That can really help. And then making sure you're affirming affirmations like my opinion is valued, my opinion is valued, my voice has meaning, my voice has impact. You know, making sure that you're keeping all those channels open. Okay, so just be mindful.

Speaker 1: 9:36

The wording on this message is what I would be looking at inwardly. Okay, so making sure you understand that maybe you're in an environment, a work environment, where they're very, you know, focused on you know where, up here and you're down there. They may be focused on that, but understand that's not the correct way to be living. It's not reality. It's something that's been created by society but it is not in any way real. You know, every human being is equally valued. So you may be working in an unbalanced situation, which means you may need to do some work on balancing your body etc. And then also seeing if you want to be in that environment. Anyway, but thank you so much for your beautiful message. I'm glad you're enjoying the podcast and, yeah, hopefully that all goes well. You know we don't. You know, no one wants to be in these situations. But, yeah, ideally, cleansing our life as best we can of these toxic situations so that we can live life in a happier, more peaceful way. So if that's possible, that would definitely be ideal.

Speaker 1: 10:46

Okay, jumping into today's topic what to do when life throws you things that are just so inconvenient that you didn't want. You know, all these things happen. Okay, things happen constantly. Like I've had a week of things like that. You know you plan your week. At the start of the week You're like, right, I'm going to do this, then I'm going to do that, then I'm going to do it like this, and then you actually get there and life kind of messes with your diary a little bit and it's like I'm going to throw this in and a bit of this and a bit of this will break and this will go wrong and this will do this. So, as you're going throughout your day, you get all these what shall we call it influences via life or disturbances via life or higher power. You know just things that happen because that's what happens in life. You know no one plans. You know their week out in their diary and has that completely go to plan.

Speaker 1: 11:43

You know things pop up, whether that's you know their week out in their diary and has that completely go to plan. You know things pop up, whether that's you know personal, professional, health wise, whatever it is. Things pop up, more challenges pop up. You have to cancel some things, move some things around. This happens, it's very normal, but it doesn't stop the stress and the frustration. When it comes up, people get very upset that something like this has happened this week.

Speaker 1: 12:07

I had it happen the whole week. I had something fall off the back of the van. That was fun. Then I had a draw break at the mechanic, at the mechanic, and then I accidentally ripped a hole in my pants with that broken draw because I sat down, which I shouldn't have done. And yeah, it's just what happens. This stuff happens, you know, it happens all the time, you know, and then I've got a massive hole in my pants at work and I'm like, what am I going to do? Why don't I keep a spare pair of pants in the van? It's literally a house van and yeah, I don't have any spare clothes, so I had to teach classes with a rip hole in my pants. You know all this stuff. It just happens. And then you've got injuries and you've got people. You go through stuff, you know, and then you've got money. Things come up and you're like, man, I was supposed to not spend any money this week and now I've got to do this. You know all of this stuff. It continues to happen.

Speaker 1: 13:04

You know, try not to assume that you're going to plan your day or your week, that you're going to plan your day or your week and then it's just going to end that smoothly, because it probably won't. Sometimes it does. Sometimes you have really smooth days, you know. I would say probably like on average, without any maths or real calculations. I would say about two out of seven days of my week go as I planned, and that's on average. Days of my week go as I planned, and that's on average. That's a general. Nothing really goes according to plan Seriously. You have holidays planned out that don't go according to plan. You have financial stuff lined up. It doesn't go according to plan. You have business stuff. You have this stuff. You never know what's going to happen.

Speaker 1: 13:49

If I reflect back 10 years ago, I was 17 and I was getting towards the end of high school and had all these plans. You know I was going to be married by the time I was 24. I was going to start having kids by the time I was 27. That's now right. You know 26, 27,. I was going to start having kids. I was going to have a house and I was going to be teaching primary you know school age, kids and I would have gone through uni already and I would have traveled and been an au pair in Europe. This was my plan. None of that happened. That was my plan, okay. So you set out in life like this is my plan, and then you start taking steps forward and it unravels and some things work out, but things unravel and you know what I've found over the time.

Speaker 1: 14:35

There's two big lessons here that I want to share with you. Number one is that when you are creating your life and you're going, okay, I'm going to do this, I'm going to get this degree, I'm going to have this business, I'm going to do this. When you have that plan, you have to understand that that plan is coming from the person that you are in that moment. Right, you are in the driver's seat, a hundred percent, but you also have life in the car with you, this consciousness, this reason that you're even here. You didn't choose to be here on this planet, right? No one consciously asked I'd like to be born.

Speaker 1: 15:20

Now, you know, some people would say that your soul did. Perhaps it did, perhaps not, I don't know, but I know for a fact that I don't remember a conversation where I was like, yeah, I'll do that, I'll go into that life, right? So the part of this amazing world that brought you here, that has the purpose that you're here, that has you here for a reason, they're also in the car with you and they're going to review your plan and your map that you've laid out for your life, or your day or your week, and it's going to go that we can keep. This is going to go this way and we're going to get rid of that altogether, and it's literally going to jumble things up for you and at the time it's really frustrating and you're like, why is this happening? But in time you realize why that's happening.

Speaker 1: 16:07

In time you realize that what you wanted for yourself then wasn't exactly what you needed or it wasn't your purpose, so it didn't work out. For example, if I married the person I was dating at 24, I wouldn't have been happy. I know that for a fact. I wouldn't have been happy, you know, if I was having kids right now with someone I didn't, I wasn't aligned to be with, just because it had to happen due to my plan. You know, if I was teaching kids in primary school, I'd be miserable. I know that. I know that now. You know, and I didn't know that then. So what I'm doing now is definitely what I want to be doing. But if life hadn't intervened and said, hey, maddie, let's go this way and yeah, it's frustrating, it's always frustrating At the time I was like, why is this not working? But you steer the car in the direction that you take the exit, you go into a new highway, new path, and as you look back you go oh, thank God, thank God that happened.

Speaker 1: 17:14

I couldn't have planned that. When I look at the last of me, you know, being out of high school and living as an adult and creating a life. If I look back, there's no way I could have planned this out with my own awareness. There is no way I could have aligned so many stars and could have reorganized so much and made so many things fall into place. I did parts of it, but I'm a co-creator with life, as are you. You are a co-creator as in. You have some input, you have some ideas, you have some dreams.

Speaker 1: 17:46

But even I would say, if you're dreaming of it, did life give you that dream? I don't know. You know it's. If you're dreaming of it, maybe it's meant for you. In a lot of cases it is. So you've got to allow life to help you with your path and your choosing, and when you do that you get what you need. And you do get the power of hindsight one day and you look back and go. Thank God, thank the universe, thank goddess that this went the way it went, because this is exactly this is way better than what I could have planned. You know, so many of us have these little moments in our life where we go. Thank God this happened, you know.

Speaker 1: 18:27

So you have to allow that. You have to allow life to do it. It has your best interest at heart. You have to trust that with everything that you are. Trust that life has your best interest at heart, even when it's hard. Trust that if it's for you, it will not pass you. Trust if you're being redirected or different doors are opening and those you wanted are closing, that that's a sign that you're not meant to go that way. And trust Very hard to do in the moment, very hard to do in the moment, but we have no choice. So try and find peace with that and allow doors to open, doors to close, and let yourself be guided and directed. Just let yourself move. This is what they mean when they say go with the flow. You know, just go with what's happening and do the best you can. May not be perfect, but you do the best you can.

Speaker 1: 19:21

The second lesson I've learned is that minor inconveniences like the ones I spoke about, you know random financial things, or you know getting into issues, like you know your car breaking down or you know whatever. It is just these little things that happen and you're like why? You know just these little inconveniences that can be so frustrating and can absorb so much of your day and week, sometimes more than others. Right, these happen as lessons. They are equally as important as your to-do list and your schedule for the day. They are equally as important because they teach you how to receive challenge and meet it and rise to the challenge and to overcome problems and to establish boundaries and to really handle situations that are thrown at you. It makes you stronger physically, mentally and emotionally stronger. It can also make you spiritually stronger. So you are literally using everyday moments in life to go fine, I'm going to grow in this way, and how you rise to meet life is your choice.

Speaker 1: 20:32

I believe that life challenges you in this way, watches everyone get annoyed. You know, you see most people. They get these minor inconveniences and they complain. You know, oh, it's raining and I put the washing on the line. Or oh, like I have to go make dinner and oh, like my car, like someone hit my car and everyone complaining about this stuff. I really believe that life is there waiting for you to go. Oh, someone hit my. Okay, it's just a car, it's fine, get it fixed or not, whatever, at least no one was hurt. You know it's waiting for you to find the perspective of joy and of peace anyway, and I can definitely say that the challenges in my life have been the things that have taught me to stop worrying so much about all these things and to dance in the rain.

Speaker 1: 21:21

So when you know this morning, you know when my pants ripped and I saw that, you know the van had been broken by the mechanic he's a fantastic mechanic, by the way. It's just one of those things that happen, yeah, and we have basically these drawers in the van that my amazing partner made. They are beautiful, but the drawer runners that I bought are one of those push open ones and I didn't realize that. You know, when you're in the van and you put the brake on, sometimes that acts as a push to open, so the drawers will randomly fly open, right, and we knew we needed to fix it, but it wasn't, you know, at the top of the list. But when I took the van to the mechanic and he had to test it, um, you know, for registration, obviously they do the brake test and they slam on the brakes and obviously the drawers come out and just flown out, which is super annoying, frustrating, because that drawer was done and it was perfect and it was beautiful. It didn't need to happen but it happened.

Speaker 1: 22:19

And then I sat down on one of the draw runners accidentally and ripped an entire hole and ladder in my pants, in my indigo, lunar, beautiful, expensive pants. So you know these things happen. And when it happened I went and looked in the mirror and I saw it and I just laughed because I really do think that life has the best sense of humor. You know, she knew that I couldn't go home. She knew I didn't have any other pants. You know she knew I'd have to teach like that. It is the perfect opportunity to laugh, you know, and to just like this is so funny. You know, I honestly look at life and I go and I just like you are so sassy, like this is hilarious, you know. So it's making light of the situation and learning from it. You know, what I've learned is to absorb my surroundings before I sit down, you know.

Speaker 1: 23:12

Or if you notice a problem come up, such as the drawers are opening on the break, get it fixed sooner. You know, like I could have fixed it, I literally had things on the floor of the van, those little baby lock things that hook things. I could have put it on, I could have. It was sitting there for days. I never did. It's a lesson. It is a lesson, you know.

Speaker 1: 23:35

And what's the funniest thing ever is when everyone was coming into class, heaps of people showed up. Heaps, it's a one of those classes You're not really sure it would be like a few people or heaps of people showed up. Heaps, it's one of those classes You're not really sure it would be like a few people or heaps of people. Heaps of people showed up. Of course they did. I had a hole in my pants. It's life. Life is going to do that stuff. You know it's going to do it. And I could have received all of that and made me like I could have crumpled and cried and been so scared and been self-conscious or this or that, but I just use it as an opportunity to laugh and to smile. And I showed everyone and they just laughed with me. You know like it's so funny. You know that that happened, you know. And then at the end one of the girls was like I can fix those and I was like, oh, amazing, I thought I'd have to throw them out. So she's got my pants right now and she's out there fixing them.

Speaker 1: 24:26

How nice, you know, when you share your burdens, people can help. You know, when you share like, oh, this happened, this is so annoying, someone else can. Sometimes more often than not, will go. I can help with that, you know. Whereas when you let it pile up on your shoulders and like, oh, life's attacking me, life isn't fair to me. All these things go wrong in my life. It's not fair. It's not fair. When you do that, you just sit down and you just give up, because why wouldn't you? That's miserable. But if you trust that life is re-guiding me, directing me to the right path, and I'm just here going for the ride, doing the best I can with each moment and any minor difficulty like that, like the ones I'm explaining, in whatever shape or size they come in, they're a moment to teach you what will you do in those moments? Will you sit down and cry about it or will you stand up and face it? And you can do both. You can sit down and cry for a second, but then you got to get back up and smile and move on and do what needs to be done, trusting in yourself, you know. So I hope from this episode you see that you're not alone when these things happen.

Speaker 1: 25:33

Okay. No one is out there experiencing a blissful, easy, breezy path of life. No one is out there doing that. Even if they pretend that they are, they're not. Everyone has these day-to-day moments. How many people must have kicked their toe or their shin on a piece of furniture in the house? How many people ran out of an ingredient when they were trying to cook food today? You know how many people realized there was no petrol in the car? You know how many people had things break? How many people had that happen today alone? If we could track everyone in the world and ask, I bet you it would be so many. You are nowhere near alone in this stuff.

Speaker 1: 26:22

What we need to learn to do is to see the challenges that life offers and to take it with grace. Go, this is for me. It's not happening to me, it's happening for me. You know I could have easily, with these pants, gotten so self-conscious Like I had bright red pants on and white undies underneath. It wasn't even skin color undies, right. As soon as there was a hole in them, there was two massive white dots. I wasn't getting out of that. It happens, you know, and I could have been really like oh no one looking like and you know, and feel like everyone's laughing at me, but I showed them in a way that was like it was laughter. It was like you'll never believe what I did today. Have a look and everyone's just like, oh, like you could tell they've been there before. Who hasn't ripped their pants before it happens? It happens, it's all right, you know. So we have to learn how to not take life so seriously, otherwise you'll be miserable. You just will be. You've got to take it all with a pinch of salt, as the saying goes, do the best you can with what you've got.

Speaker 1: 27:29

And if life messes with your diary or your schedule or your life plans, that's completely normal, and she does it regularly. I will often leave space in my diary. Now I don't chock-a-block full my diary. I used to like bang bang, bang, bang bang, do this, do this, do this at this time, at this time, at this time. I don't do that anymore. I just write three things that I'd like to get done that day. Here's my self-care for the day, and then I leave it blank because I know that life has to have her input. And if I chock-a-block full the diary, it tends to be a worse day for me, whereas if I leave some space, life can do her thing and I can still get my stuff done, but sometimes not. You have to trust life.

Speaker 1: 28:20

Thank you so much for being here, magical Human. I hope you enjoyed the episode. Please share it with someone you know and love. You share it on your Instagram stories and tag me. I would love that. I'd love to share it. I'd love to chat to you. If you have any questions or anything that you want to send me, please send me a DM on Instagram. As you've seen, I've started reading some of them out to help you, because I'm sure there are other people out there with the same or similar questions. If you can also, please leave a rating or a review on the platform that you listen to this podcast through. It really helps me reach new people, to expand and to grow, and I appreciate that every moment. Thank you, magical Human. Have a wonderful rest of your day. You.